Older adults' housing decisions may be:
Encourage the older adult to discuss housing options early. Good conversation topics regarding housing options include:
Focus on understanding the older adult's housing preferences and plans. Ask how the older adult would deal with unexpected changes, like breaking a hip or needing to stop driving.
Don't say that you want the older adult's "input" or "opinions," which can sound like you'll make the decisions. Say that you want to make sure the older adult's housing preferences and needs are met, even if an emergency requires quick action. Dealing with emergencies is even more difficult if you haven't discussed housing with the older adult, so you should make the effort to have the conversation beforehand.
Remember, it is essential for older adults to feel in control of the decision about whether, when and where to move. Research has consistently shown that the move and outcome of the move are significantly better when the older adult feels in control. Older adults who feel that they have lost control can suffer long-term negative consequences. To keep the older adult feeling in control, avoid saying things like:
Instead, say things like, "let's talk about the advantages and disadvantages," allowing them to voice their perspective. You should always allow the older adult to voice their concerns, and you should make an effort to actively listen when they do, so that you can work with them to address the concerns rather than trying to solve all their problems without their input.
If you and the older adult are exploring housing options, ask how each option might affect the older adult's:
If the older adult is considering moving in with you or other family or friends, talk with everyone who could be affected, including children. Discuss: